Tuesday, December 11th 2012
I must admit I am a Starbucks gal. I look forward to my morning cup of java there. While I use the drive through when pressed for time (typically I am), I try to savor the real Starbucks culture and go inside when I can spare the time. What a brand.
Recently when time allowed me to savor the experience inside, I overheard a conversation between the barista/manager and a regular customer. Both parents. One had younger kids, the other (wise woman) had teens. The wise woman said, ‘if you don’t talk to your kids when they are young, you won’t have a relationship with them when they need you, and your guidance’ – when they are teens. They blamed all of this on the overuse of smart phones and technology. I could not agree more.
Each interestingly had set at home policies for not using technology, not allowing phones at dinner, even prescribed down time when no technology could be used. And abusers were really punished. Wow, I was impressed.
My mind was reeling with thoughts. While I did not ask these questions, I certainly wanted to. Had their kids been to sleepaway camp or residential teen programs where no technology (or highly restricted use) was allowed? If so, how did they manage? I love when camps and programs tell me they don’t allow technology. It’s during these times that kids and teens really learn how to communicate, express themselves, make eye contact, collaborate, resolve problems, engage, show compassion and tolerance, etc.
I think next time I will gently ask these questions (and make suggestions).